“Apology is a lovely perfume; it can transform the clumsiest moment into a gracious gift.”
~Margaret Lee Runbeck
apologize to my sisters. I remember my parents standing over me watching me do it, too.….listening to my tone of voice.
As young as I was, my mother’s ear was tuned to the ‘twang’ in of the tone I had as I apologized.
“Don’t you think you should try that apology once more?” She would offer.
I took a breath and looked at my sister’s Cheshire Cat grin….(I knew what my mom meant)…ahem.
My own parents viewed an apology as a part of manners, just like saying please or thank you. Being pretty practical no nonsense people I'm not sure they would have care about looking at any developmental standpoints, either.
learn by example. I have apologized to children and have apologized on behalf of preschooler’s behavior. Telling young children I feel sorry to hear about a particular sad situation, or simply sorry that they feel sad or upset is my way of acknowledging I know they troubled.
“I’m Sorry” can be a difficult words to say sometimes. But when it is infused in our children’s environment, perhaps it makes it a bit easier to say when it is a familiar phrase.
There really is something about preschoolers-how they don’t hold grudges. Three minutes later they are off playing and laughing with one another…
It’s really us big folks that do things like that.
I have worked in schools that often have strong policies about whether or not children should even apologize to one another. I found this quite surprising. What are your thoughts on this?