Life is the sum of all your choices. ~Albert Camus
I often think of the virtue, 'Good things come to those who wait'. Well, now there is an actual way to see if it not only proves true, but how we as adults can help gadge where our children are at. In The Marshmellow Test, Mischel followed the kids throughout their lives and the results were astounding.
The children that could hold off eating ‘one marshmallow’ for ‘two’ seemed to do significantly better at delaying gratification that those that gobbled it immediately. Big deal? Yes, it is actually. Just check out the areas this kids excelled in over the ones that couldn't wait....
In areas like:opposite in his finding years later. I encourage you to take this test with your child over time. See if the results change. One thing the test didn't show is how parental influence can help a child with delayed gratification....
I pose the question, "Can we as parents and teachers help to shape the results of this test? My guess is we can. We can because I know that loving our children also means telling them "No".
Funny isn't it? The word, "No" with a whole lot of love behind it is sweeter than any marshmallow...and a bit of sweetness makes anything easier to swallow.
Click here to see more results of the Marshmellow Test.